Womens Fashion By Joanne Louise

Right its the new year ladies, all these resolutions we make, how many do we actually stick to? we all know the answer to that one.. well i want to work with you all as a team so we all help each other look and feel our best this year… come on girls we can do this..

Ive had a year of nothing but work, ive been working hours that are inhuman, trying to run this business and progress the website whilst being a good partner to my fella and bring up our 12 year old boy and 10 year old Triplets  !! yes you did just read that right…. I know what it feels like to be tired out feeling low, and not liking what i see staring back in that mirror at me….

If you are build large youll want to be small, for us ladies that are small, i wanted to be curvy so i know its rare we ever totally like ourselves, we are the first ones who look in the mirror and see only our bad points……… Its time we started to look at the good ones, lets see if this year we really can build our confidence and hit spring with a huge smile..

For any of you ladies out there who are sitting there saying i havent got the energy, there is an answer.. i know this and have found that the more we do the more we want to, it works the same with doing less.. lol

As mums we are trying to hold down jobs bring up families and still keep the house clean, many men seem to see this as the womans role, but i guarantee if you start to feel better about yourselves it will show through with your manner and confidence and your partners would be more than happy to help out more, especially if it means they gets a new happier you, it does wonders for a sex life too !

Where do we start ? daily im going to post (in jos personal blog) see side ->

A day to day guide of little things that will make a big difference..

I can help with fashion tips, what suits shapes sizes and what colours suit what skin shades, and if we work together having fun along the way by spring we will all be feeling so much better (ready for spring) health, diets, excercise, from kickboxing to horseriding, theres something that works for us all ….

Dont wait til it gets here then start sighing as you dont want to be seen in a swimsuit, preparation is the key to everything and 16 weeks can make a huge difference to how you feel and look..

Ive done all types of excercise and know what works, but ive always found that the basics work best, starting with healthy eating..

Ive always believed that shock treatments work better than any of these fad diets, my sister is a large curvy lady and has been on every diet known to man, everytime she puts back the weight and gets disheartened, so dont pay to be told you need to loose weight, well work through it together without costing anything except a cuppa while reading our daily blog..

I always believe that its not the shape size or hair colour, you can have the curviest lady who just seems to bubble with fun, its all about confidence and knowing what your best features are and using them to feel good…..

I hope you will work with me, i want to be the best shape as i can be when i hit my birthday in may (its my 40th) so lets make 2008 the year to feel great….

I would love it if you ladies will share your day to day thoughts and experiences, we can swap tips and patt each other on our cyber backs, and i guarantee you by spring when everything is bursting with life we will be too..

Love Joanne xxx

Cyber Cheating - Virtual or Reality www.j-lou.comCyber cheating has been a weird ethical question in online behaviour for about a decade now. What constitutes as cheating, webcamming yourself to other people, hot flirty chat with someone outside your marriage.

Psychologists have indicated that a combination of distance and pseudoanonymity over the internet tends to unlock peoples ids, this would explain all the flame wars, UPPER CASE SHOUTING, and the frivolous flirting in chat rooms. Is the new addiction to 3D avatars in games adding a dimension to this behaviour as people are then free to become psychoactively charged by their new virtual bodies and lifes.Many of these avatars are quite hot and sexy and had potent resemblances to anime, so its not surprising to discover that online cheating in virtual worlds is hitting a boom and that not many to real life partners are thrilled about it.

You can actually pay to hire a virtual world detective to put a trial on your partner to find out if they are cheating or not, the detective can then take an incriminating screen shot and have the client teleported to their location to catch their partner in the act.

From how I see it, this is all escapism and is not always platonic, you have to be unhappy in your life and with your relationship to spend all your efforts online creating a different persona and lifestyle, and if you were not unhappy to begin with in real life I am sure you will become unhappy as it must put strain and doubt on your partner to not want to spend time with them, if this is the case them maybe you should not be in this relationship.

Or is it the fact that in this virtual world you can control everything around you, were as life is not always that simple or kind. If this is a scene you are thinking about getting into, with any addiction you should control it, not let it control you, remember fun is recreation not essential.

Want to get back into the real world and make your self as sexy in real life then start at WWW.J-LOU.COM

Don’t hide behind a screen get out and enjoy life.

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Top 10 Stress Warning Signs Stress works in mysterious ways. Did you know humming, excessive blinking, itching and dandruff are part of our system’s reaction to tension? Perhaps your body’s trying to tell you take time out. So, listen-up and get to know the signs so you can stress-proof your life.   BLINKING
Increased blinking is telltale evidence that we are feeling the pressure, either emotionally or physically. When in a relaxed state, the average blink rate is around 15-30 times a minute but under stress this can increase to up to 70 times a minute. The response is known as the Nixon Effect after American president Richard Nixon, whose blinking escalated to suspicious levels when under pressure during the Watergate scandal.  

TEETH GRINDING
Nocturnal teeth grinding is thought to be a way of relieving tension. Clenching or grinding teeth is a recognised response to anxiety, however, most ‘grinders’ are unaware they have this symptom as the condition usually flares-up when they are fast asleep. But it’s important to wake-up to signs such as chipped teeth, tooth sensitivity, sore jaw muscles and earache because prolonged exposure to grinding can result in headaches and jaw disorders.DANDRUFF
Stress sets off a chain reaction in our physiology and as a result plays havoc with the immune system. On the outside, our hair and skin is one of the first places to show the strain - so it’s no wonder dandruff is the most common condition affecting the scalp. Research suggests weakened immunity triggers the bacteria which cause dandruff to grow out of control, swell and irritate the top of the head. As the cells die they break down to produce the pesky white flakes which cause a snow storm on our shoulders.  

 

DRY MOUTH
When the going gets tough, our instinctive ‘fight or flight’ response kicks in. For basic survival purposes, blood flow is diverted away from less important areas and re-routed to essential muscles in case we need to scarper sharpish. This lack of fluid causes dryness of the mouth. Stress also interferes with our breathing - we take shorter, shallow breaths which leads to stinky breath. It can even make it harder to swallow because our throat muscles go into spasm as a side-effect of the strain on our system.     POOR

Stress can sabotage your libido in more ways than one. When you’re stressed to the max, the body’s reaction is to put survival ahead of pleasure. This affects the hypothalamus gland and the body’s production of estrogens and testosterone which give us sexual desire. Women may find it hard to achieve orgasm and men can experience temporary impotence as the chemicals released when stressed reduce blood flow to the penis.IRRITATED SKIN
Emotional stress can cause chaos with our skin as pressure prompts the release of histamines into the bloodstream. Our skin then reacts against this enzyme which results in itchiness and hives. Skin conditions such as psoriasis and eczema are also thought to worsen when tense. Studies of psychological stress show anxiety can decrease the wound-healing capacity of the immune system by up to 40%, which doubles the effect of stress on acne.SWEATS
Perspiration doesn’t only increase but is also smellier when we’re under emotional pressure. The sympathetic nervous system kicks into action when the body is stressed which forces our heart rate, blood pressure and breathing to rocket. Our apocrine glands (responsible for smelly sweat as opposed to odourless eccrine gland sweat) also work overtime and secrete more fatty fluid into the tubule of the gland. When we’re wound up, the tubule wall contracts and pushes sweat to the surface of the skin. It’s the bacteria waiting to break down the apocrine sweat which causes body odour.TUMMY TROUBLE
One of the first places we run to when we come under increased pressure is the toilet. Stress tampers with our biochemistry and sends a surge of hormones including adrenaline racing through our body. Our digestive and immune system temporarily shut down because these stress hormones hinder the release of the stomach acid we need to break down food. However, get ready to say hello to diarrhoea as, simultaneously, the same hormones stimulate the colon so its contents are fast-tracked through the gut.

HUMMING
Did you know humming and whistling could be your body’s natural way of soothing a stressful situation? It might seem like an innocuous habit to subconsciously slip in to when you are stressed, but humming stimulates the right side of the brain (the part used for abstract and creative thoughts) and may help you to calm down. Humming is even one of the preferred stress-busters for babies who want to calm themselves.

BAD HABITS
Nail biting, nose picking, hair twisting are common habits if you’re nervous. It’s suggested that having something in our mouths reminds us of the calming, safe feeling of sucking milk as a baby. On the face of it, such anxious habits might look unpleasant to onlookers, but these manners may trigger calming sensors in the nervous system to give an immediate rush of relief.

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One in five working men’s clubs in England and Wales fears it will be forced to close as a result of the smoking ban coming into force within the next few weeks, according to a poll. 

Of 560 clubs surveyed for the BBC, more than four out of five (83%) thought takings would fall as smokers stayed away. 

And 20% said they believed their club was “quite likely” or “very likely” to close. 

The ban will start in Wales on April 2 and in England on July 1 and will prohibit smoking in pubs, clubs and enclosed public spaces, even if the area is only open to private members. 

The Government originally wanted to exempt private clubs, but was overruled by the House of Commons. 

The general secretary of the Club and Institute Union, Kevin Smyth, said the ban came on top of an increasing burden of red tape on clubs. 

He told the BBC Radio 4 Today programme: “Gaming permits, extra increases in licensing fees and now another set of legislation which looks as if it will almost certainly reduce the number of members coming into clubs is a great concern. 

“I can understand why a number of clubs feel this may be the straw which breaks the camel’s back.” 

Just 1% of the 560 clubs taking part in the survey thought their takings would rise as a result of them becoming smoke-free. 

A quarter thought the ban would be difficult or near-impossible to enforce and 40% were confused about the public spaces covered by the ban. 

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It starts with sex
In fact, it ends with sex too. Yes, yes, you have to like him of course you do! But if the sex isn’t good, you can work really hard at it and give it some time but ultimately it might never get any better. That could be bad or it may not be that important to you.

For many relationships, it’s the glue that binds everything else together, and whether it’s working or not is generally a good indicator of what is happening in the relationship.

Be scrupulous about this part of your relationship - is this the man you want to spend the rest of your sex life with? Does he do it for you? Does he like what you like and vice versa? 

 

Up close and personal
You should have this one in the bag early on. It’s a good starting point for finding out if he’s the one. Let’s face it, your friends have seen you through the bad heartbreaks, they know your good points and your really bad ones too. They know what is good for you.

Test the waters by inviting him out for drinks with your closest friends. Try to overcome any anxiety that they won’t like him and stand back: let them ask questions, engage him in conversation, find out who he is.

This is a good scenario for finding out how he handles the pressure, what he reveals about himself and how everyone gels. Getting feedback from everyone can help you to figure out how you feel and what matters most to you. Mostly it’s a matter of instinct. Don’t panic if there isn’t immediate chemistry, some things take time. But if a lot of your friends are uneasy about him, you might want to take note. 

 

Meeting the family
Okay, just because your family LOVE your man it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s the one. But it is a good indicator because your family are the ones who know you best. So, if you want to throw him into the deep end, invite him into the family home for a lunch or dinner. If you feel like this is too much to handle, maybe organise a meeting at a favourite, relaxed restaurant - neutral territory if you will.

Again, this can be a good way to find out how much everyone likes each other and you can sit back a bit and see how he responds to your family. You know your mother is difficult, you know your family don’t have a lot of money, your sister has just got out of rehab - how does he handle all these things? And does he still feel the same way about you afterwards? 

 

Those annoying little habits
So, you move in together. Do you STILL like him? You didn’t know he was touchy about letting you see his bank statements or that he hides porn in the bottom drawer. And he had no idea how much you hated cleaning.

Start asking some questions and finding out the answers too. Does he mind when you steal food from his plate? Does he still love you when you look your worst? When you are stranded somewhere late at night does he come pick you up - even though he has to be at work early the next day?

The underlying deal here is whether you feel loved and accepted. This works both ways. Do you accept the times when he comes home drunk after a night out with the boys? Do you accept the times when he’s stressed about work and doesn’t stop talking about it? It?s for-better-or-for-worst, without signing any papers. 

 

The M Word
This one’s a biggie. A good test of whether he’s right for you is if he wants the same things as you and that includes getting MARRIED. Maybe you want to or maybe you don’t. You have to know fairly early on in the relationship (if everything else feels good), whether or not he’s on the same long-term wavelength.

Sometimes it’s tricky to bring this up when you are both busy at work during the week when you’re both tired and stressed. Of course there is no really ideal time but pick your moment. Sometimes big conversations can go the wrong way because the timing is bad. Maybe use an article you’ve read on the subject to initiate the conversation. He’ll know it’s coming at some point, but may be afraid to bring it up himself.

Pay attention to how the conversation progresses - if you do want the same thing, done deal; if there?s room to negotiate, that’s not so bad; if you disagree - well, you need to do some serious rethinking. 

 

The C Word
If the M word is difficult, the C Word is positively scary. That’s right: CHILDREN. The same situation applies - choose your moment carefully before broaching the subject and try to have some idea about how you feel about it and if there’s room for manoeuvre.

If you both agree that you want children make sure you both know what that means. Be careful that he’s not just playing along to keep the peace by asking for complete honesty. If he’s holding back you may feel the backlash when you are ready to start a family.

Of course, things change: maybe you end up choosing your career, maybe he doesn’t want the responsibility. But it’s crucial to have a shared vision from the beginning. 

 

What are you waiting for?
If your man fulfils all the big things on your wish list then snap him up!

If you’re not sure or you’re pretty certain he’s not the one for the long haul, be honest with yourself. It’s scary, but true: it’s never too late to start again 

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