Womens Fashion By Joanne Louise

It holds many powerful meanings,

Yet we all search for it….

What is a soul mate…..

and how do we know if we’ve met ours…….

Its our search for the other half of one’s soul, complete compatibility, for which all our souls are driven to find …

Ive been in love with a guy I would have done anything for, we shared so much together and connected in so many ways but in some ways sadly we didn’t…

it was the love and lust thing, but nothing further

I didn’t feel safe with him, which only a woman can understand… i believe, its a word women whisper to each other, as we all know exactly what it means ..

Safety, security comes when you can feel so close to a person you trust them completely, you trust their words if they tell you not to worry and feel security when they are beside you, as this person also brings you strength, whatever happens if you need them they are there, unconditionally…

I didn’t have those feelings, i had the love and passion, but not the trust or belief in him….

Searching for our ’soul mate’ means we search for someone who is compatible in every way, some people believe all men and women have their duplicate opposite… someone who shares the same soul, whether there is one person or if there could be more than one…i cant say…

we walk through life day to day, searching for that person who understands us without explanation, hears without words, who we feel without touching….. he or she, is out there…

There is a belief that some souls are literally made to be our mates, for us both to play an important role in each others’ lives… sometimes we cant explain strong connections to people we just know they are there, so who are we to argue history….

These souls are thought to have created a connection in a past life and have chosen this lifetime to help each other heal …

How do we know when we meet them? and how do we know if its them? it is as they say…
you just know …..

The feelings have to be two sided, its no good you believing some guy is your soul mate and stalking the poor fella to death, when he doesn’t feel anything for you, except you should be locked up..lol

It has to a mutual feeling from inside out….. so we mustn’t get confused here, its a love that goes beyond just love , and a feeling this person completes us..

Its like music sometimes we all hear songs we feel ‘must have been written for us’ cutting words that sink so deep, right to the core of our very soul’s..
this person does the same for us in all areas, its someone we feel we’ve known all our lives, who understands us, you feel totally comfortable around them, that never have to be anything except yourself with…

I watch every morning an elderly couple pass my house, every day they are there dead on 8 holding hands to fetch the morning paper, the love these guys have makes my eyes well up, for years they walk past, yet every day is like their first, i have no doubts they are true soul mates, just way they look at each other, makes the day a brighter one for me..

So whether we can all get to feel the same is down to us, it may be a case of luck or indeed fate, but whatever comes, never give up the belief theres someone out there made for you, i spent 9 years with a guy who abused me physically & mentally yet every night when i went to sleep i never lost hope..

I wanted my knight in shining armour to come and rescue me, away from all the pain, from the miserable life i had, but knew he was out there somewhere, i just had to find the confidence to free myself up and hope he would find me….

But regardless to whether he would come, it was the hope that made me strong, it gave me that ray of light that i would get up, bath and try to be the best i could, just in case is was today i met him…. and as strange as that sounds it worked…

So if you do or don’t believe that person is out there for you, bury your beliefs and look at it as your ray of light..

A little hope that just might grow into something life changing……….

Soul Mate …

If you have found a smile
that is the sweetest one you’ve known,
If you have heard, within a voice, the echoes of your own,
If you have felt a touch, that stirs, the longings of your heart,
And still can feel that closeness, in the moments you’re apart,
If you have filled with wonder, at the way two lives can blend
To weave a perfect pattern, that is seamless, end to end,
If you believe some things in life, are simply meant to be,
Then you have found your soul mate,
your heart’s own destiny…..

By Joanne xxx

WWW.J-LOU.COM

Online Dating

 
Our life’s are being bombarded with visions of trying to find the perfect partner.  Are we in the age were we are just not happy with what we have got and have to see if each patch of grass is greener.

 
All these online profiles such as face book etc are now causing splits in relationships as old flames think they can rekindle there school sweetheart and not thinking of the changes or the consequences, thus only lasting a few months as the disruptions from the previously scorned relationship takes it told on the new relationship and the new couple find that things were not the same as they where all those years ago.

 
What has happed to the good old days, were people were single and went out to socialise to find a new partner face to face, not just if they can be bothered to log on and set up a profile full of lies to encourage through false advertising a new beau.  If you have not got time to go out and learn how to communicate properly and honestly without having to sit behind a screen all the time then how are you suppose to communicate and compromise once you achieve to find someone that may be vaguely compatible.

 
I am not sceptic to those finding love through the powers of the world wide web, but surely it take the fun away from those little things that are important in striking up a a new relationship, It has been known for some people to have really happy and committed lives via these online dating agencies.

 
The problem we have nowadays is we are not happy with what we have and look on and join these sites while still being in a relationship, because heaven forbid we wake up and have the guts to end a relationship before another person is lined up, I mean where is the point in that? First you should correct or end a relationship and learn to live with that decision and learn who you are again and what you are looking for in a partner and life.

 
If relationships in your life keep failing, don’t just blame the other person, look at the cause it could be closer to home than you think. Do not just ponder through your already existing relationship looking for a way out or having an affair, it does nothing but cause upset, heartache and the ability to not trust anyone for a very long time afterwards.

 
So just think, before you decide to log on and make an online portfolio of yourself asking for a knight in shining armour with a good sense of humour who enjoys walks on the beach, ask yourself why are you doing this, why is the other person doing this, are they lying on their profile and are they already in a relationship, just looking for some fun, because if they have done it to you they can do it again.

 
It’s the same with affairs, if you let yourself get involved with a married man, and you believe the spiel they give you, the sneaking around and deceiving telephone calls to the wife/husband, what make you think they will be faithful this time.

 
If you want a true relationship make sure you are both single, that no one else is involved so not one else gets hurt, and start the relationship how you want it to go on, honest, open and true.