I was engrossed in a conversation last night about growth ….I’m not talking about size I’m talking about a person growing in spirit to the point where they can feel themselves flying inside.. Its a feeling that each one of us are special, that whatever you set out to do you can achieve, a feeling of such happiness its unsurpassed, a feeling that your souls flying inside totally uplifted and free..Being totally connected with your spiritual side and able to feel, experience and enjoy everything there is in life to feel without worrying ……I had a friend round last night and out came the wine, i wouldn’t normally drink it but i actually felt i wanted to try it, so its a first for me, so 2 bottles later we stumbled on this conversation and Ive now discovered i actually do like wine …  

She started it off by saying how she sees me, i was pretty shocked, the way she describes me i don’t see myself as, or feel anything like she seems to see me, why? ..

why cant we feel it and why do we always see the bad in ourselves, not the good ?

To me she oozes confidence, seems so alive its infectious … this is someone who really will make the most from her life …no doubt

She also makes me want to, I’m not in fear of getting older… in fact I am looking forward to every moment, some think when you hit a certain age you have to behave in such a manner and you cant do this, that or the other, as you are simply to old to act like that, i don’t believe that..

I missed 10 years of what some class as the best part of their life, to me it wasn’t I spent years being brought down and controlled until it got to the point I had nothing left , I wasn’t growing i was dying..

The older I become the happier I seem to feel about age, it really doesn’t matter, we gain knowledge, experience and friendships as we go along to add to what we already have so its all great….

We can all look at ourselves in the mirror and frown about the bits that don’t hold up so well and see the marks of age taking shape, but does it really change you as a person … no…

No matter what you do it wont hold back the clock , you should be happy you’re getting old …. many don’t get given that gift …
to just enjoy whats inside them, as that’s the part that stays alive ..

Have you ever heard the saying the eyes don’t lie, its true, whats around the outside may look completely different with years, but the sparkle will stay in them if you are alive inside…

Work stress, problems, its all takes its toll , although you feel like you’re jumping hurdles, later you realise that certain events & past moments have affected the way you feel and little by little they strike at your confidence, bringing it down……

I remember a girl I know who had a older partner she used to joke and say that she would trade him in for a younger model, why ? if she wanted someone younger she should have moved on and not kept his spirit morally down with her supposedly funny jibes & jokes that constantly reminded him of the fact he was getting older, they did eventually split for him to move in with her younger model but, what she hadn’t bargained for was she had grown so old in her manner of ridiculing people and couldn’t keep someone younger if she tried, if the mind dies then the rest follows suit shortly …. so it all kind of backfired on her …

What this goes to show is its the mind that keeps you young, so instead of worrying about what you like in that mirror work towards making yourself feel good inside, that’s what we take with us through life …

What we were talking about last night was, what do you need, feel, want, to make and keep you feeling alive inside, what makes some people feel they can really fly…. without wings…

For each of us its different, what works for one, may not work for another, its that unique way we are each made up that controls what it is we search for, what makes us complete…

While i lay in bed last night it was running through my head, society cant deal with free spirits, they try to keep us down, for whatever reasons it may be, people use words envious, jealousy, but i am the kind of person that gets hurt from that, I don’t cause hurt, its just not in my nature, be it friends family whatever, I always have tried to do whats best for them, if someone was picking holes in them self and you could see they were down, wouldn’t you try to bring their confidence up, tell them they are wanted and how special they were, help them to try to feel good about themselves again, assure them that they really do matter, or if someone had less that you did and you were able to give without thinking, just so they wouldn’t have to struggle quite as much, would you ? ………

If you even had to think about it, then you need to look in and feel how they feel, that’s the problem nowadays nobody feels anything…….except the bad stuff … its sad…

I’m now thankfully back on my journey learning what i need to fly, my way will no doubt be different to some to what makes me happy, i don’t care about the material things I do care about the feelings, and want to experience my life in full, I’m not ready to sleep and rip holes in myself anymore, i am what i am and I’m happy with that…

And as for my friend we intend going out having a giggle and causing mayhem…

After all life is exactly what you make it….. and what you make of it …lol

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Last night was the long awaited salsa dancing lessons.. yes
For anyone who knows me knows i love to dance, either pole dancing, disco,ballroom anything goes, especially if ive had a vodka, I grew up loving music and its the biggest part of my life along with my kids..

Estelle (That lovely girl who answers the j-lou phone to you all) dragged me out early so we also went along to an egyptian dance class (belly dancing) before the salsa class, it was brilliant.
I havent got much in the hip department so its a little harder to try and wiggle it..lol but i had a good go and it must done some good as i ache everywhere today, but in a good way !

I woke up feeling like a bottle of pop today so intent to make the office a fantastic place to be in, ive made the postman jump did a little wiggle for him (or he wouldnt give me the mail) and started the day with a huge smile..

Theres something so sexy about salsa, the way the body uses the beat to move it just oozes sex appeal, the older i get the more the itch got worse so i had to get in that class, its timless you can dance at any age and this classic i think is the best thing since sliced bread..

if you havent watched the Bailamos video, get into the music section here in our blog and see if it makes your feet and body start to wiggle, i cant sit still when im listening to music and what better way to get and stay fit…its also something you do with your partner, if you havent got one, get along to a class youll get one who will already have something in common and enjoy meeting new people..

Im going to start posting every week what happens in the class and try to pass on some helpful hints as i learn, ill also pop some photos in to show you how we are doing..

You dont need a partner most classes like ours ask you to move round the room dancing with everyone, so its a great way to socialise and interact with people naturally…

Dancing goes back through the ages, theres something everyone will enjoy, and it lifts the spirit at the same time..

Theres no excuses for you saying you cant dance and have two left feet, theres bound to be someone there with two right ones to help out, my fellas used that excuse for years and ive dragged him into the class..lol

Mind you there was a stunning latino looking women there last night who was beautiful, even i couldnt stop looking at her and my fellas face when she partnered him was a picture…

So i bet he’ll be there early next week….lol

We need more men to come forward and try this, you wont be the only guy there but its so much better if the man leads and not a woman trying to be the guy, so if youre reading this and think..mmmm  i wouldnt mind trying, why not come along and try..

We feel just as awkward to walk in a class, but swallow your pride and give it a go, once youve been to one class it does wonders for your confidence, i would now feel comfortable enough to go by myself happily….

us dancing regaetton at stalham on high street

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With Pole dancing and lap dancing is a great way to take a man to his limits by using your body through dance is a powerful, highly sexual very sensual experience..

He must not touch, the only touching allowed is controlled by you, defenseless he is powerless to use anything except his eyes .

Visually hes stimulated, you can see what effect you’re having on him, the more you excite him the excited and erotic your dancing becomes.

You can feel the closeness, although he cant touch all his senses are coming to life , the smell of your skin so close , the gentle brush of a breast sweeping against him..

turning, you arch into him slowly, thrusting your head backwards to rest against his neck, he is touching with his face and following every move now with his eyes, wondering whats coming next ..

Arch and gyrate into him slowly but harder sliding up his thigh to his groan, make sure he feels every movement now, too light and it won’t have any effect, to hard and it takes away the sensation,

so use your body to feel the pressure feel the heat as the friction of the movement warms up his every sense..

all you can hear is the beat of the music, getting lost into that moment only , imagine you are naked and about to slide onto him and feel him inside you.

the more you want him the more he’ll want you, but hold back.. use the energy to really put him through his pace, work his imagination, until he wants to touch badly..

place his hands gently over your breasts, only for a moment, enough to feel the heat coming through your top , your erect nipples are telling him, hes not the only one getting excited..

turning back maintain eye contact now and hold it….
give him messages by using your eyes..

gently unbutton your top and allow his hands to open and slide it down your back, hes inches away now so you can now feel his breath on your skin, nuzzle into his neck and kiss , lick, tease the skin, til you can see his head moving in the direction of your mouth..
gently pull away, don’t kiss his mouth yet… but maintain that eye contact

lower your hands whilst resting your body open over his groin, gently squeezing him between your legs, all the time gyrating your hips so the moments stay rhythmic , the music is deep and hypnotic, and it seems louder now in your head..

slowly unbutton his shirt, use your eye contact to tell him where your moving to next..
trace from where you left his neck, all the way down to his nipples, lick, suck gently probing your tongue all around the area, feel the hardness of them between your lips..

you have his full attention now, you know where he wants you to go..
lower your mouth, keep it firm on the skin, hard kisses, hes struggling now not to touch, his natural reaction is to hold your head, and place it where he wants it most…

slide up, positioning your breasts at eye level, connected still by your eyes, unbutton you jeans, pull down just enough, so he can see your sensual curves, your hips gyrating and he can now visually see your naked wiggles..

turning slide down your jeans, all the way down to the floor, turning your head only, you have nothing on except a g string now, you’ll see where his eyes are firmly focused !
bending forwards arch your back as much as you can, giving him visually everything on display, except whats hidden through a tiny string, place your hand behind you

pulling out the string and sliding it down one side, slide your hand in between your own legs, whist staring straight at him, he knows its a matter of time now, you are soaking wet and want nothing now than to have him inside you…

turning towards him, his trousers are only thing between your naked bottom half and being able to feel his skin between your legs, lower yourself and unzip them..

its natural as you gently pull hell raise up so they glide off, lower you head and begin where you left off, kissing licking sucking now, place his penis between your hands, licking sucking the sides, caress the base with your fingers tracing where you can feel that blood pumping to, tempting him with your tongue, tasting his juices, he will be leaking, hes building up, so as you lick and suck him, look straight into his eyes…..

now both of you are naked, the dancing now starts, allow him to now use his hands, and by this time you’ll want him to badly, sliding back onto him, you feel the full heat of skin on skin, every sense you have now should be alight, there are no inhibitions, hes seen everything there is to see, but not felt what you want him to, allow him now to move you to where he wants you to go..

you can both hear the music but its more distant, other senses are now working overtime..

allow him to do what he wants to, and take control, he is highly aroused now and if any man claims they cant be taken to the limits by a dance……….

they havent tried dirty dancing…….

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